A girl described her school to me the other day. More specifically, she described the social hierarchy and where everyone fit in. The more I listened, the more it saddened me. Maybe there will also be a natural hierarchy in schools, but does that make it okay to bitch about your so-called friends and ditch them in favour for the more ‘popular’ kids?
The girl, who I will call Kate, has (or should that be had?) a friend called Rosie. Rosie sounded like a good friend, helping Kate out with her schoolwork. However, Rosie is quite quiet, and is the type of person to have a small group of close friends, as opposed to a large group of friends. This annoys Kate, who has been expanding what she calls her friend zone. I think she means friendship group, but whatever. Kate thinks that Rosie is jealous that Kate is friends with “The Populars”. I understand the jealousy part, because sometimes it’s hard when you feel like you’re being ditched, but seriously, “The Populars”? Sure, they might be outgoing, which makes people attracted to them, but does excluding other people make them nice people? No, it doesn’t. Perhaps they’ve (they’re 11-12 years old, by the way) been inspired by the shows they watch on Nickelodeon and Disney Channel, such as How To Rock, where the so-called popular girls are pretty but mean.
Also, it seems that you have to look a certain way to be included in “The Populars”: cookie cutter pretty. But I think we all need to remember this:
This is why I love Unfriendable. And remember: Make new friends, but keep the old, for one is silver and the other is gold.